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Thursday, November 03, 2005
Connection
Why I have to give the Go Fuck Yourself Vibe
I hate to say it but when i am in comedy clubs I don't feel like chatting anymore or meeting new people. It is sad I know but I am trying to be honest. Too much energy for too little reward is the selfish reason I guess. Having the same conversation over and over again.
"Why are you so angry"
"You need to get laid man"
"You were pretty good tonight"
etc etc etc
First of all if you have seen my act I should not have to answer number one. Statement 2 is too personal to discuss with a stranger.
Number three is my favorite. The agenda on this one is great. Either I did not do well and people feel bad for me and want to say something or they did not get it but still wanted to say something. Here is a good idea don't say anything. Be quiet..I know it is hard to comprehend in our world that travels at 800 light years a second but just shut up. Think of your day tomorrow and what you need to get done and save the energy for that. But thank you for the quote for my resume...
"Darren Frost is pretty good" Mill Operator Lucan, Ontario
Don't get me wrong I like people...just not the ones that generally come up to me and want to have some connection. I have met many people whose work I have admired and they do not even know it. I once drove emo philips for two hours and had a great conversation but still did not tell him I started comedy because of him. Where is that conversation going ...no where but creepyville.
I have met many musical artists that probably saved my life due to my narcistic atitude in the early nineties but I don't need to be that guy who goes
"Track three off your second record made me put the razor blade down man...do you think the next time you play it you could like..dedicate it to me"
I am just amazed that people need their connection validated to a certain level sometimes. I care more about having connections with people who i know not just someone I think i know cause they made me sing their shitty lyrics out loud a few times.
I am not going to be an asshole but I will shut down the chat pretty quickly if I have been down that road before or I smell asshole. Now I like being complemented if done in the right way. A nice thank you at the end or hand shake no problem. A nice email a few days later, where you want to tell me you connected with something is cool cause it does not come across so creepy for some reason. It is just to have someone in front of me right after I walk offstage telling me his/her life story. How there was a day that the racoon stole their laughter..... is too much energy.
Anger is an energy and I need to save it
"You could be wrong..You could be right"
2 Comments:
I guess this explains why you were such a prick to me after one of your shows.
I dunno man, I always hate watching the hockey game and seeing the players leave the ice and have 10 hands reached out for them to get a "high five" or something... and the players keep walking with their heads down.
I am sure you guys get bugged and bugged all the time, and i am sure you've delt with your fair share of complete assholes before, after and even during a show...
But, in MY case. I LOVED your set. I don't need validation, if anything I just wanted you to know that the set was good. Hell, maybe you hearing that would be a good thing for YOUR confidence. Did you ever think to see it that way?
Either way, for whatever reason you do it for. I feel the "Go Fuck Yourself" vibe is lame. Your PUTTING yourself at the center of attention, I think you have a certain responsability to be available to the people that want to chat and wish you well, no matter how hollow it feels to you.
Anyway, great blog and great comedy everytime I see you. I am a big fan... and this blog is like hanging around after a show. Your putting yourself out here, so here I am talking to you.
I have a 100 bucks that says you'll still be a prick :o)
I am not normally a prick to anyone after a set if they come up to me in a nice way.
90 percent of the shows i do in the club situation I stay and shake hands and say thanks to fans.
Now you either were outside of the two categories or I fucked up. Now if you were not an idiot and at a club show then I apologize.
I still stand behind what I say..i don't need the validation but I also understand the value of your time and money. I always will try and make time for people. Sometimes we are in shitty moods or whatever but this is the first time in 14 years that I have had a negative email about this kinda thing.
I am one of the only comics in canada that gives more cds away then I sell. I give away bootleg dvds all the time.
You may feel the go fuck your self vibe is lame but that is what people feel I have and I cannot change how I am portrayed sometimes. Cest la vie
My conifidence does not need to be filled with a fans words that is all. You have to find it in other ways.
anyways email me and I will send you a dvd to make up for the dick treatment.
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